New thoughts, new behaviours, new experiences

I’ve been reading a great book ‘You are the Placebo’ by Joe Dispenza. Some of the science I tripped over, but the kernel, the gold nugget, the daemon was this. Same thoughts, same choices, same behaviours, same reality. New thoughts, new behaviours, new choices. Nice.thoughts 3
Neuroplasticity makes us powerful co-creators of our own lives. Given we can create our own suffering through the quality (or lack of) of our thoughts, we can also create well-being by improving the quality of our thoughts. We think around 70,000 thoughts a day, almost all the same as the day before and the day before that. So let’s bring some Mindfulness into the equation and with intention and attention begin to notice our thinking.

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What are your “Top 8” repetitive, replayed thoughts?
They vary for each of us but often fall into themes of unworthiness, failure, needing to work harder to prove worth, I’m no good/ at much, I’ll never get well, it’s too late to….., I can’t….. and on and on.
So let’s make conscious, unconscious repetitive thoughts by:
  • Being Mindful/aware of your thoughts
  • Listing your personal Top 8 repetitive, unhelpful thoughts
  • Creating the antidote. For each negative thought write the opposite, healthy thought. eg: “I am worthy and deserving.”
  • Repeat these to yourself on waking, during the day (timer on phone helps as reminder) and before sleep.
  • If you meditate finish your meditation by recalling these new thoughts
  • Noticing the negative thoughts you’ve been cultivating for maybe decades, (!) and reminding yourself that they aren’t real, just old habits, and can be replaced
Like Mindfulness, this is a quiet day by day practice. Approached lightly but with intention. Remember, new thoughts, new feelings, new choices. Co-create your life!

Courage and the Car Accelerator

Driving on the motorway, years ago, my frustrated brother asked if I always drove “Like this.” “Like what?” I asked. “Well, you press the accelerator and we speed up and then you lift your foot off and we slow down…over and over.” Unaware of this pattern I laughed, partly because the moment required it and mostly because it was (and can be) my approach to life. Courageously moving into the world and then withdrawing into an inlet; risk adverse, protective and immobile. My driving style had inadvertently captured both my potential and said in good humour, my pathology.

What in your life reflects your courageousness? Make a list. And where in your life are you fearful, risk adverse and low in the courage stakes? It’s good to know this about yourself.

Courage is a truly beautiful, noble and essential human trait. It creates positive change within us and inspires others. Courage, or the lack of it, activates two different parts of the brain, so it’s wise to practise and learn the art of courage for wellbeing and personal growth. Like all things, courage sits on a spectrum- we don’t need to jump into burning buildings but we can take small steps. To do nothing, can be to atrophy this noble trait.

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So, if you’re prone at times, like me, to being risk adverse and not acting on your own behalf, here’s some things we might do to nurture courage.

Breath, not that shallow fearful breath in our upper body, but breathing with intention into the belly. An abundant type of breath that says ‘I can do this.’

-Practise gradual courage. Small steps. If the metaphor is a marathon, start with walking and then 20 minute runs three times a week.

Support yourself-We are our own harshest critics. Tell yourself you’re doing well, you can do it, it’s going to be ok or even great. Over and over.

Recall times when you were courageous. This is powerful. Find a memory and recall it. Feel it in your body. Feel the strength in your legs, spine, and voice. Use that feeling to propel you into the next act of courage rather than into aversion and avoiding.

Ask for support-nobody said you had to do this alone.

We get better at things by doing them. So, if your foot is steady on the accelerator, well done. If your style is start, stop-well done too because you know it and can do something about it if you desire. If your foot hasn’t quite made it to the accelerator, you instinctively know where it is and how it works. Be courageous. You can do it.

by Ana

Stuck in the Mud like a Lotus

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I recently just read a fabulous book and this line captivated me.

Whether you are stuck in your muck and liking it or rewriting your story and becoming the hero, there is magic in your midst.

Using mud as a metaphor for muck, let’s explore how we get ‘stuck,’ how it might serve us unwittingly and the potential ways to get unstuck. Given the complications in life, getting ‘stuck’ is not that difficult.

Sometimes we have to admit it’s just where we are at. There is no moving because we don’t yet have the resources, resilience or know-how to change it. It’s not healthy to stay here for too long.

At other times we use our comfort zone to mask the truth that we are “stuck” and unwilling or able to make the changes needed to enable our wellbeing and fulfil our potential. But we can do it.

Not long ago I started dancing classes. It was terrifying. I needed mountains of encouragement from another and reassurance all would be well. Fun in fact. After the initial three or so lessons my anxiety levelled off and self-consciousness diminished. And it was fun. Being out in the world, moving to music and laughing at two left feet with others is a joyous activity. And it’s a lesson that fear is just fear. It can’t hurt us and neither can it stop us if we choose.

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So, tips for working with the “stuck in the mud” feeling in your life.

  • Get a friend or support to encourage/back you up into doing something fun and liberating that you’ve always wanted to do. It can be ANYTHING, but something that moves the body is particularly good.
  • Set intentions small or big and write them down eg: by the end of the week/month I will have looked at vacancies, talked to someone who does the job I want to do, relaxed for …. every day, walked in nature. Tick them off as you go because it feels good
  • Do small things outside of your comfort zone that are good for you and bring you a sense of happiness
  • Notice the good things already manifest in your life e.g. the love of an animal companion, loyal friends, the natural beauty around you, a good coffee, being a parent (even though stressful at times). Savour!
  • Know that you are co-creating your life, so that even if you feel “stuck” you can become unstuck with the support of others and perseverance.
  • Alice Walker once said ‘books save lives’. There are many books that are teachers. Inspiring, backed by neuroscience, reaching for the heavens books. Get to the library or bookshop and explore!

The very best to all of us who are continually working, both in and out of the mud. May we blossom like the Lotus.

namaste

 

Ana