‘Mindset Reset’ by Prudance Gensmen

The first thing that struck me about this book, was the generosity of the author who offers the templates in it for examining our beliefs. Its not just for individual use, but can by utilised by coaches, therapists, anyone who works with others in a transformative way.
‘Mindset Reset’ is an accessible and pragmatic approach to identifying beliefs, working out which of beliefs are working for us and which are limiting us, and then offers a straightforward process to follow to create new paradigms and beliefs.
The book offers twelve areas or Mindsets to examine: Self Care, Exercise & Nutrition, Medical Care, Financial Management, Education, Work, Life Purpose, Leisure, Family, Relationships and Spiritual.Under each of these headings we record our beliefs eg: Under the ‘Work’ heading the mindset you hold may be, “The harder I work the more valued I am.” Then you move onto changing that belief into a healthier one. Gensmen offers “ticklers” or possible mindsets under each category to get us thinking.  From here there are six questions to ask ourselves of each mindset or belief.

 

  1. What is my current Mindset? What message am I telling myself?
  2. Is this working for me? Yes/No? Why/Why not?
  3. If it is working, how is it reinforced and what does it bring to my life?
  4. If it isn’t working, then what would I want it to become and why?
  5. How can I, right now, begin to live from this (new) Mindset perspective? (3 actions)
  6. How does it feel when I embrace this (new) Mindset?
The workbook offers pages to record your insights and action points for each belief. Gensmen reminds us that it is an ongoing process; to examine entrenched and familiar beliefs and at the same time there is a way of embracing new beliefs to create positive change.
Change happens from the inside out so this is a powerful and practical resource that could be useful to us all!

Your Inner Will: Finding Personal Strength in Critical Times by Pierro Ferrucci

The task of self-mastery is arduous, but noble and fruitful.

pierro fThe book ‘Your Inner Will: Finding Personal Strength in Critical Times’ by Pierro Ferrucci, philosopher and psychotherapist, is a deeply considered and pragmatic book. It’s grounded in both the authors experience and learnings’ as a therapist and supported by neuroscience research. Each chapter places a spotlight on the traits necessary to the cultivation of our “Will”, which is like the marrow in the bones of one’s life. Willpower is described as our capacity to endure, persevere and not give up in the face of adversity. Ferrucci says our “Will” is a “survival tool.”  It may be tested in different settings throughout our lives…a job search, a relationship, travelling alone, making decisions that alter the course of our lives. It is a certainty that we will all face situations whereby we have a choice to either cultivate or undermine our “Will”. Different traits are highlighted in each chapter…Resilience, Mastery, Autonomy, and each chapter is introduced with a fable or myth, that captures the heart of each particular trait. Engaging the old wisdom of these stories, Ferrucci goes on to highlight the essence and necessity of these traits in a psychologically healthy and happy life.
Each chagandipter ends with practical activities to deepen our experience of that particular trait. For example in the chapter Autonomy, Ferrucci discusses the importance of self-determination and exposes the danger of delegating responsibility to others for decisions about our lives. The particular activity at the end of the Autonomy chapter requires us to list what we like and value, what our strengths are where we want to invest our energy. In doing this we are encouraged to make conscious that which we may be unaware of and to proactively call forward and strengthen the trait. Like the fables we are encouraged to ‘own’ our choices and live vibrant lives in alignment with our values. We are asked to deliberately nurture these traits.

The will is for everybody…if we don’t have it we can generate it.

The author highlights the challenges we face in an overstimulated society where superficiality is often revered in the media. The danger of being seduced by this superficial path is that we forget to value and foster traits necessary to live a thoughtful and meaningful life.

If we are missing out on the essential quality of courage, every aspect of our life suffers.

His discussion on the power of attention was interesting. Often ‘attention’ is highlighted in relation toward developing or cultivating a trait. Ferrucci does too, but he also states how powerful it is to withdraw attention. The power of ignoring. This can help deprive repetitive and negative thoughts and impulses.  To ignore is to take the ‘life’ from them, thereby reducing our suffering.
‘Willpower-How to find Strength in Critical Times’ is an important and accessible book. Its poetically written so in no way dry or ‘scientific.’ I found it to be an intelligent, deeply useful and authentic book.

 

 

Conversations With the Universe; How the World Speaks to Us by Simran Singh

The Universe never stops talking to you. It avails itself of every possible avenue to get your attention.

Simran Singh first came to my awareness through an interview I listened too. That interview led me to her TED talk, her 11:11 talk radio show and then to this book, ‘Conversations with the Universe.’

It’s a captivating read. Both immense in concepts that challenge our often narrow views of life and wise in guidance on how to broaden our perspective to see the benevolence & beauty within ourselves and others.

Singh is a passionate messenger. She says we are more than we realise. More powerful, more beautiful. In fact Divine. To evolve our Divinity, the world, or our world, guides and communicates to us on a daily basis.

The key for us, is to notice the signs, synchronicities and symbols that fill our days and dreams and to see them as self-created messages that encourage and guide us into alignment with our highest good. Observing these messages, whether it is a song on the radio, a repeating number or an alarm going off in the distance, all have relevance if we choose to notice.

universeGiven this, our world is a classroom in which we have abundant opportunities to heal and transform. Through this lens we are our flat tyre, the butterfly on the windowsill, the flooded basement.

The question to ask ourselves is: What is before me? What is here for me to heal/learn/grow? In this view our outer world is a reflection of us.

There are anecdotal stories woven into the chapters illustrating nothing in life is random, that all is a symphony asking us to become who we are meant to be. The true “Self.”

“We are the mess, the message and the messenger of our lives.”

‘Conversations with the Universe’ is a deeply compassionate book. It emphasises self-reflection and inner healing to free ourselves of suffering and at the same time reassure us:

“Whether you are stuck in your muck and liking it or rewriting your story and becoming the hero, there is magic in your midst.”

We are encouraged to live bigger, with less fear and to see beyond our narrow ‘reality’ (really illusion). To understand our birth right is to live fully and joyously.

The Sunset HD Desktop BackgroundThere are practical exercises throughout the book to encourage reflection of both our inner and outer worlds. Acceptance, awareness and forgiveness are necessities: we are human, imperfect, but at the same time magnificent Divine co-creators of our life.

“You are not on a journey, YOU are the journey. That journey is asking you to experience YOU in discovery. This means that there is no end goal or destination but a never-ending path of realizing ALL that you are. Step into the magnificence of infinite possibility.”

I loved Singh’s palpable wisdom and inspiration, captured through her beautiful writing style. Paragraphs and pages needed to be re-read to allow my mind and heart to expand around the author’s vast view of life. It’s a book that could be re-read many times and with each reading new insights would emerge. It’s definitely one that will stay on my bedside table for a long, long time.

Our lives are designed beautifully. They have been created in the most unconditionally loving way, without interference or hindrance, other than that of our own choosing. But they also have the gifts of ‘choice’ and ‘asking.’